Best Lesbian Themed Music Videos of 2017

A few years ago, I started compiling a list of lesbian themed music videos released in single year for my own amusement. When I first started the list, I could barely find 10 videos to put together in a yearly playlist. In contrast, this year I had 58 videos to choose from! The reasons behind this increase in lesbian themed music videos is subject for another discussion, nonetheless, the sheer fact of such increase must be celebrated. The more we see depictions of same-sex sexual desire, attraction and romantic relationships, the more we destigmatize them. In other words, "We're Here; We're Queer; Get Used To It!"

Below are our favorite videos of 2017:

  • Marika Hackman - My Lover Cindy
  • J.Views - Don't Pull Away (feat. Milosh)
  • LP - When We're High
  • Be Steadwell - New Girl
  • Torres - Skim
  • Mary Lambert - Know Your Name
  • Quiñ - Sticky Situation (feat. Syd)
  • Hayley Kiyoko - Feelings
  • Niia - Nobody
  • Fletcher - Wasted Youth
  • July Jones - Jump In The Water
  • Siva - Clarity/Nights B4 You
  • Rupp - Happy Now
  • Ily - Your Love
  • Kehlani - Honey

Best Lesbian Themed Videos of 2016

Here are our favorite videos of 2016 :)

  • Shura - What's It Gonna Be?
  • See - Potions
  • Courtney Act - Kaleidoscope
  • Tegan and Sara - BWU
  • Dodie - Sick Of Losing Soulmates
  • Rooms - Stars Beyond
  • Jonas Blue feat. Dakota - Fast Cars
  • LP - Lost On You
  • Seasons - Fossils
  • Mary Lambert - Hang Out With You
  • Prep School - Come As You Are
  • Hayley Kiyoko - Gravel To Tempo
  • The Veronicas - On Your Side
  • Peaches - How You Like My Cut
  • Young M.A. - "EAT"

To Label Or Not To Label

The issue is hotly debated within our community. While some of us embrace such characterizations, others believe them to be nothing more than overt generalizations, acting to reduce a person into a stereotype. I happen to like labels…and although I also agree that labels are generalizations, I believe they have a function in our society.  Take gender, for example; the social and cultural construct of gender, assigning the term female or male to those that share similar qualities are also labels. Having a label of female or male allow us to make certain assumptions about a person without ever knowing them. The same is true for the term “queer.” That is, while escaping from the binary conforms of gender as female/male, “queers” have nonetheless labeled themselves as those who do not subscribe to conventional gender distinctions – this same rationale holds true for the “do not label me” people. 

Now, let’s scale this back to the lesbian community. Whether you're checking someone out on Tinder or in your local lesbian hangout, labels can help you to quickly, albeit superficially, make a determination about someone’s personality. For example, if I see someone with a short hair cut, cargo shorts, combat boots, no makeup and great arms, I will instantly label them as butch and consequently, top and/or Dominant (though I know that sometimes it’s just wishful thinking on my part). This cursive assessment shapes my immediate future interaction towards this person. It is even more helpful when someone labels herself because we can evaluate how she identifies, without feeling that we are projecting our own stereotypes. I identify as femme. If you see me out of context – i.e., not at Club Lezbos – you’ll likely think I’m straight. But if I was wearing a “femme” label, then you could correctly make the assumption that I’m a lesbian. Since lesbians never adhered to the hanky code, labels are the next best thing ;-)

Marriage Equality

My first reaction when I heard the news of the SCOTUS decision was astonishment. It was only a few hours later when my mind really started to comprehend what happened. At least with respect to marriage, we're no longer second-class citizens. I vividly remember the day my wife and I legally married in California, just a few days after SCOTUS struck down Proposition 8. Six months prior, we had a beautiful domestic partnership ceremony where we were surrounded by our family and friends; and, although I was ecstatic, I did not cry then. I cried, however, when I heard our officiant say the words, "by the power vested in me by the State of California (...)." To have our relationship finally recognized by the law, not as a "partnership," not as a "union," but as a "marriage," was too powerful a moment and I could not contain my tears from falling.

Now, same-sex couples in all 50 states will also be able to have the same recognition under the law. In the profound words of Justice Kennedy:

Courtney Barnett

I'm probably already late to the party but swooned by her charm, witty lyrics and dead-pan singing style, nonetheless. Out singer/songwriter Courtney Barnett is a breath of fresh air and I've been listening to this song, on a loop, for the past week.

Notorious R.B.G.

A much deserved tribute #notoriousrbg #betterlatethannever

RBG A tribute to Justice Ginsburg in the style of Notorious B.I.G.'s "Juicy" Yeah-this song is dedicated to all the judges that told me I'd never amount to nothin' because of my gender, to all the people that lived in their ivory towers that I was hustlin' in front of, that tried to buy me off by putting Susan B.

Codependent Lesbian Space Alien Seeks Same

Title: Codependent Lesbian Space Alien Seeks Same
Year: 2011
Language: US (English)

Plot: Jane is a plain old greeting card employee, but everything changes when Zoinx and Zylar visit planet Earth. They are concerned that too much love is destroying the ozone layer and are determined to have their hearts broken to save our world.

Basic Review:

  • A seriously unique film! I know it doesn’t look great at first glimpse but this crew have gone above and beyond to bring you a light hearted and hilarious lesbian themed film.
  • The film is in black and white which you forget about in the first minute.
  • The alien’s attempt to assimilate to our human culture is curious and well thought out.
  • The aliens even have their own language which is a creative credit to the writers.
  • A film made by lesbians with no heterosexual side stories.
  • A satirical low budget film with a flawless plot, great laughs and feel good moments.
  • Give it a chance! If you’re into quirky things, you’re welcome.

*Recommended by: Netflix

(Source: lesbianfilms)

10 Lesbian Movie Scenes We Wish Were Consummated

We all know there are plenty of lists out there ranking the hottest lesbian sex scenes in movies. But what about those torrid lesbian scenes that are oh... so promising, but don't end up in sex on screen? Being a cinephile who is always searching for sapphic content, I've watched several lesbian and non-lesbian movies with incredibly sensuous lesbian scenes. Here is my list of 10 titillating movies from the tamest scenes to the hottest.

DISCLAIMER: If you haven't watched these movies you may not want to continue reading this list, as it contains SPOILERS.

1. Fried Green Tomatoes

Ok, Ok, this movie has no "lesbian" scene per se but it carries a lesbian theme throughout. In fact, it is quite clear towards the end of the movie that Idgie (Marie Stuart Masterson) and Ruth (Mary-Loise Parker) are in a committed, loving relationship. Incidentally, the movie is an adaptation of the book, "Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Café," written by the openly lesbian author, Fannie Flagg. I was a teenager when I saw this movie and had a huge crush in Mary Stuart Masterson. I watched Fried Green Tomatoes hoping for at least an on-screen kiss between Idgie and Ruth.....but the kiss never came :(


2. And then came lola 

I listed this movie not for lack of a lesbian sex scene but for the ménage à trois that never happened. Seriously, did anyone else feel as duped as me when watching this movie? The poster for the movie shows 1 hot femme sandwiched between 2 others! This is not that great of a movie to begin with -especially for their unabashed plagiarism of "Run Lola Run" - but I kept watching it all the way to the end hoping that a threesome could save my movie experience.....but the threesome never came (pun intended).



3. Frida

Who among us doesn't remember the incredibly sensual dance scene between Frida (Salma Hayek) and Tina (Ashley Judd)? When Tina announces that the winner of a "drinking contest" gets to dance with her, Frida steps up, outdrinks the men and leads her to the dance floor where they proceed to dance a tango. At the end of the tango, Frida gives Tina a passionate kiss, they smile at each other, the crowd claps in approval, and they part away. What??? Oh my god, I wanted to see so much more.


4. Henry & june

The movie is based on the diaries of Anaïs Nin, a French writer who had an affair with American writer Henry Miller. During the affair, Anaïs became infatuated with Henry's wife, June Miller. The scene in question is between Anaïs (Maria de Medeiros) and June (Uma Thurman). I was 16 years old when I watched Henry & June for the first time. I already knew that I was interested in girls but had never acted on it. After watching Anaïs and June naked in bed  kissing each other, I knew there was no way back for me: definitely lesbian. Also, I became obsessed with Uma Thurman for quite some time.


5. Jennifer's Body

Holy goddess Megan Fox! That girl is so freaking hot, it's wrong. I've stumbled upon this movie browsing through my TV channels. Once I learned Diablo Cody wrote the screenplay, I decided to watch it. What a delightful surprise! A black comedy, with very witty and sarcastic dialogue, and OMG filled with lesbian innuendos between Jennifer (Megan Fox) and her high school BFF, Needy (Amanda Seyfried). Jennifer is every lesbian's worst nightmare: the straight girl who unmercifully taunts you then retreats. In any case, this scene is super hot and will definitely leave you wanting more.


6. Compulsion

I had no idea how dark this movie was when I saw it. If I had known, perhaps I would've watched it sooner. Newly wed Amy (Heather Graham) unknowingly moved across the hall from her childhood idol Saffron (Carrie-Anne Moss). Once an awarded chef with a busy schedule, Amy was now a housewife who loved preparing ultra elaborate dinners for her husband. When the husband grew tired of Amy's epicurean compulsion, Amy focused her culinary talents into curing Saffron's anorexia. Long story short, Saffron and Amy end-up making out in bed. Enraptured by Saffron's kisses, Amy promises she will do anything for her. Moaning, Saffron begs Amy to eat her. Unfortunately, turns out when Saffron asked beautiful Amy to eat her, she meant it literally.


7. Femme Fatale

Who cares why Laure (Rebecca Romijn) undressed Veronica (Rie Rasmussen) in a public bathroom stall during the Cannes Film Festival? Certainly not I. Here, Laure deliciously takes away each piece of clothing and jewelry from the already half naked model Veronica. Laure's hands and lips are all over Veronica and just when you think something more is going to happen, Brian de Palma cuts the scene. Shame on you, Mr. De Palma, denying us the pleasure of watching 2 gorgeous women sharing much more intimate moments together.


8. Mercy

Detective Palmer (Ellen Barkin) begins investigating a series of murders, which lead her to the underground world of lesbian BDSM and to Vickie (Peta Wilson). Throughout the movie, there is palpable sexual tension between Det. Palmer and Vickie, but neither takes the plunge. Finally, Vickie had enough and openly seduces Det. Palmer, pinning her against the kitchen counter. We can see Det. Palmer submitting to Vickie's sexual advances but just as Vickie is lowering Det. Palmer's panties with her teeth, Det. Palmer puts an end to it. Seriously!? 


9. Black Swan

Although we get to watch a lesbian sex scene between Nina (Natalie Portman) and Lily (Mila Kunis), I was disheartened when I found it was nothing but a dream. It shouldn't matter since it is all make belief anyway; however, there are so few portrayals of lesbianism in Hollywood that we tend to hold on to all the morsels thrown at us. I guess here it was not enough that we got to see the actors sharing intimacy with each other. I wanted the characters to have shared that intimacy as well.


10. After Sex

This scene is proof that sexy doesn't have to be explicit. Nikki (Mila Kunis) is a straight-identifying pillow princess that every once in a while enjoys having a girl go down on her. In a previous scene, Nikki had "allowed" Kat (Zoe Saldana) such privilege. Then, in their college library, Nikki asked the million dollar question, "What does pussy taste like? (...) what does my pussy taste like?" Well, well, she asked...